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AVOID THIS DATING DEAD END: TEXTING OR PHONE TALKING FOREVER, LIKE YOU’RE GIRLFRIENDS AND LOVE GOSSIPING.

There are two scenarios here. One, you're emailing and not phone talking. Second, you're  texting and chatting on the phone, but you haven't yet met. What's up with that? So, he's not asking to meet you. And yet he's texting and calling you for long, winding talks. You know he has a cat, loves to cook, especially lasagna and lemon chicken, and visits his mom on the weekend. You've told him about your dark chocolate…

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MIDDLE-AGED AND DATING? DON’T MAKE THESE 6 MISTAKES

Dating in middle age…well, it’s different from dating when we were younger and met someone in person. IRL—in real life—is the acronym used nowadays. I’m offering up a few pointers to new daters and the date-weary. Online dating is not for the tender, but then neither is getting older. 1. Don't take online dating personally  If you take online dating personally, you’ll give up before you meet your honey. Online dating can be fun, but…

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WHAT THE MEN IN MY LIFE HAVE TAUGHT ME (EVEN AFTER 50)

The reality of stepping out there after a long hiatus—whether you’re divorced or widowed—is anxiety-producing. But what I’ve learned about myself and about men couldn’t have been experienced otherwise. Who knows what you’ll glean from an hour or two (or forty-five minutes, in a few cases) over coffee, or a glass of wine, or dinner. And this is a good thing. Healthy and perhaps even a tad heart warming. And fun, too. Stuff I’ve Picked…

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DO YOU HAVE A SPINACH PROFILE? I HAVE A RECIPE FOR YOU.

Dating Blooper #1  The Spinach Profile What's your dating profile? It's not just your photo. It's also your story.     Consider how bland a spinach salad tastes without a little dressing. Or how bleh cooked spinach is without a little oil and garlic.                          Here's a plate of plain old spinach.     That’s your profile if you haven’t added a little balsamic vinegar, oil…

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GET CLOSER BEFORE MEETING. HOW? THROUGH DISTANCE DATING. BEES DO IT. MY FRIENDS DO IT.

Do this and get to know him before meeting. It's sort of a Predate. Requires prep before phone talk. I have a few friends who are distance dating—I call it predating—and it has nothing to do with Covid. Why? One friend who's recently met a "possible" says that if a guy who lives more than an hour away contacts her, she lets him do most of the work—doesn't do any heavy driving, not at first. …

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5 DON’TS FOR ONLINE DATERS AND 4 GREAT DOS

Don't Get Overwhelmed by the Strangeness of it All  If you’re new to dating, you can get overwhelmed with anxiety about details, like what to wear, or fear that you won’t recognize your date in a crowded bar. "She'll see I'm fifteen pounds overweight," said a friend going on his first meet in two years. Other friends worry their date won't resemble his profile photo. "I lied about my height, but only by an inch,"…

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