I WANNA BE SPECIAL, GUEST POST BY BARBARA
Online dating isn't easy. What makes you decide to see him again? Or not. Chemistry isn't always enough.
Dating AFTER 50: ARE YOU MAKING ANY OF THESE ONLINE DATING MISTAKES?
New to online dating? Don’t make these boo boos. And pull on your rhino suit because internet dating is not for the thin of skin. THE BASICS 1. You Don’t Realize Online Dating Is Tough If you haven’t dated in twenty years, it’s good to know this. Don’t let it stop you. How is it tough? Anonymity often leads to bad behavior. I’d say that rudeness sometimes rules, but it isn’t that simple. I’ll give…
DATING QUESTIONS FOR SUNNY AND FRIENDS
Let's have a glass of wine and talk: Blow Torched? I went out with a guy twice. He ended the last date by asking me if I thought we should take our profiles down. I’m thinking it’s a bit early, but I’m really attracted to him. Is this too good to be true? He’s touchy-feely in a nice, not creepy way, and I think there could be something here. He’s not rushing me sexually, by the…
5 DON’TS FOR ONLINE DATERS AND 4 GREAT DOS
Don't Get Overwhelmed by the Strangeness of it All If you’re new to dating, you can get overwhelmed with anxiety about details, like what to wear, or fear that you won’t recognize your date in a crowded bar. "She'll see I'm fifteen pounds overweight," said a friend going on his first meet in two years. Other friends worry their date won't resemble his profile photo. "I lied about my height, but only by an inch,"…
6 REASONS NOT TO RESENT THOSE MEDIOCRE DATES
So, why should you bother reading about the not-so-hot times? Most meets are mediocre. Learn what isn’t. Internet dating is a numbers game. Meet two dozen men. Find one. If you’re lucky. Connecting isn’t easy. Your mediocre is someone else’s Honey. Internet dating is a marathon. This is training. You learn something from my mistakes. Every time. Nothing counts. Except The Meet. Nothing.
CLUELESS GUYS COULD BE THE NEW SECRET SAUCE
Reasons To Give Clueless Guy a Chance We women are natural born detectives, putting together all kinds of clues to figure out men’s behavior. Lucky for us, we have help. Girlfriends, coworkers, sons, daughters, and aunts. Even the gang at the gym will lend an opinion; in fact, several women in my zumba class are very interested in my love life. And don’t discount that old bible of daters, He’s Just Not That Into You.…
HOW TO GET HER TO EMAIL YOU BACK
This is for the guys out there. And ladies, feel free to take a peek. So you'll know we guys aren't quite as tough as we'd like you to think. Rejection is our middle name. When it comes to any kind of dating, we're the ones taking the body blows. Imagine this: you're on the dating site, scrolling through all the lovelies. You see her. A great smile and let's face it, great legs. Who…
DATING QUESTIONS FOR SUNNY AND FRIENDS
Let's have a glass of wine and talk: No Movin' No Shakin' Is anything happening here? I don’t suppose a woman over fifty should be taking the old He’s Just Not That Into You book too seriously. Or maybe I should. I pulled it off my shelf last night. It’s easy reading and yuck! I saw myself and mistakes I’ve made in the past. Right there in those pages. So I started wondering how you can tell…
WHY PICKING OUT THE PERFECT MANGO IS LIKE A DATE
I’m a writer finishing up a novel. So what’s with the How To website about dating, especially middlesageish dating? When I started meeting men––or should I call it redating––in my middle ages, I knew nothing. Here are a few of the many things my friends said: Don’t take it personally. Nothing has changed since we were thirteen. There’s a lot of monkeying and ghosting. It’s a numbers game. Everything has changed since we were thirteen.…
A DATE WITH YOURSELF
Saturday afternoon. I am food shopping with my friend Peter, something we do from time to time after hiking. We’re loitering in Seafood, leaving threads of dirt from our boots wherever we walk. We each hold a service number. “I’m thinking shrimp cocktail. Sole with lemon-butter. I make a mean lemon-butter sauce. Arugula and brown rice.” Peter brags about his cooking about as often as the average man pulls on boxers. “Pretty special for a…
QUICK. WHAT DO YOU NOTICE FIRST?
What do you notice in the first few seconds on a first meet? His comb over? Her weight? This unscientific survey is brought to you courtesy of my friends (names changed) and acquaintances, all middle ageish and dating online. They were all asked the same question and yes, the sex card was played. Or at least mentioned. What Women Notice in the First 5 Minutes We pick up on certain things. Such as you asking…
BARBARA
An hour we talked. Hit it off. Told me about his business, his kids, his exercise routine and asked me questions about myself, so it wasn’t one-sided. Just when I figured he’d ask about meeting, he told me he didn’t think we had a connection. My mouth was still hanging open when he hung up. Watch for the follow-up, Phone 100, about women who don’t have a phone clue.
SUNNY BLABS
I’m Sunny Chanel, the main character in Middle Ageish, Shirley’s novel. Fifty and dating. A lot. Did I have a choice? The woman invented me. She dated. She wrote. She stuck me in the novel. She even broke my heart. Lots of those meets in the novel were the real thing, but who can tell what’s true from truish? I’ve lost track myself. I’ll bet Shirley’s lost track too. She carried a little notebook to…