There are two scenarios here. One, you’re emailing and not phone talking. Second, you’re  texting and chatting on the phone, but you haven’t yet met. What’s up with that?

So, he’s not asking to meet you. And yet he’s texting and calling you for long, winding talks. You know he has a cat, loves to cook, especially lasagna and lemon chicken, and visits his mom on the weekend.

You’ve told him about your dark chocolate obsession, Thursday line dancing, and your fear of earthworms. What’s stopping you from gently nudging him into a coffee get-together?

You both could be nervous about a real connection. Gird your loins. I’ve always wanted to use that expression—Stanley Tucci said it in the movie, “Shall We Dance?” Move to the phone.

Don’t spend weeks writing back and forth, an endless string of emails. You might as well put your message in a bottle.  

If you’ve already exchanged numbers, you’re almost there. No excuses. Suggest a coffee shop or a spot for a glass of wine. Or meet at a park for a walk. Do it. (And no, it won’t hurt.)

Three reasons why you need to move forward:

First. Giving out a number shows interest. Second. Phone talk can suck up your precious time. Third. If he doesn’t want to meet, cut your losses and move on.

You know what I say about meeting. Nothing else counts. Nothing. You’ve gotta meet the man. 

The Mini Lesson

On the phone you can charm, especially if you’re not an avid emailer. Keep it light. Talk about your favorite pizza place, meatloaf recipe, hiking spot, writer, daughter, music app. Tell your mother’s latest story. The one about calling the Fire Department to crawl through the second floor window Because she went out without her key. Your 79-year old mom.

Just don’t go on and on and on.

You give good phone, don’t you?  

 

 

 

 

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